We’re all human, right? If you’re anything like me, you have good days and bad days.
The sooner you accept that it’s all part and parcel of the process, the sooner you’ll sit back, relax and enjoy the ride.
Here are ten things you should keep (or start doing in some cases) immediately if you want to be happy:
1. Be grateful and appreciate the people around you
2. Be brave and risk failure
3. Focus on on the positives
4. Give yourself a pat on the back once in a while; you’re doing great.
5. Look at how you can help others, as well as yourself
6. Stay focused on your goals
7. Create a plan and stick to it
8. Keep trying…don’t give up
9. Avoid making excuses
10. Don’t take the easy way out
It can be easy to lose sight of these goals sometimes…God, I’m terrible for it.
The important thing to remember is that we’re all just works in progress.
Are there any I’ve missed out? Let me know in the comments….
Evie’s hair salon was open for business today.
I look good, right?
I’ve had a lot of time to reflect and re-evaluate things recently.
I’ve realised that I spent so much of my last five years surrounded by toxicity.
I read an article recently about toxic relationships.
How many of you have experienced a relationship or friendship that takes far more than it gives?
In this article, it described a good relationship as one that holds, ‘a shared understanding of the value of the resources that are invested into the relationship’ and how each person honours their side of the bargain.
Put simply: You look after each other.
Right now, I can honestly say that I’m in the happiest place I’ve been in YEARS.
I’m surrounded by the most supportive, kind and caring people and I have to say, I’m so happy.
It feels good to say that after suffering and feeling so low for so long.
Why’s it important?
That’s simple. The happiness that these amazing people give me spills beautifully into my relationship with my little girl.
My message is simple:
You can’t pour from an empty cup, but if you fill it with poison, you’ll do yourself damage too.
Pause once in a while and be thankful for the people who had real value to your life.
That’s the good stuff.
We all face highs and lows from time to time. Life has this funny way of changing when you least expect it.
Humans don’t do well with uncertainty, and more often than not, we’ll sit there and stress about all the ‘what ifs’.
If you’re a parent, you’ll probably feel like that’s feeling has been magnified a million times. It certainly has for me.
When faced with uncertainty, people have an uncanny way of slipping to one of two attitudes: ‘Optimism’ or ‘Pessimism’.
The approach you take will DRASTICALLY change the way we deal with negative events, as well as having a lasting impact on you as a person.
Optimists will approach a situation with a positive mindset, whereas a pessimist will expect the worst.
Which are you?
I’ll let you into a little secret: I’m an ex-pessimist.
I used to worry about things that were beyond my control, spend too much time comparing myself to others and feel like I wasn’t good enough.
I’ve been through some incredibly low times, and questioned myself right to the core.
During those lows, I realised something essential to my happiness.
I have the power to influence the way I look at situations and re-frame them more positively.
Better still, so do you.
If you do these three simple things, you’ll feel better, honest.
1. Meditate: Take time to allow your brain to process your thoughts.
2. Write: Extract those thoughts into a journal often
3. Play: Get out, have fun and learn to be ‘off’ from time to time.
Society places too much pressure on us to be on 24/7.
If you feel like you spend too much time trying to be a people pleaser rather than looking after you, I challenge you to think about the damage you could be doing.
Once you do, you’ll see a world full of opportunity, rather than a landscape scattered with obstacles.
Nobody’s perfect. It doesn’t matter how hard you try; you’re probably going to get it wrong sometimes.
If you’re anything like me, you’ll second guess yourself when you see how other people choose to bring up their children too.
The critical thing to remember is that you can only try your best.
I have some rules that I live by when it comes to raising Evie. I haven’t always been great at some of these – It’s taken a lot of practice, and I’m still learning.
Parenting is a journey, and using these standards as a reminder helps to keep me on the straight and narrow.
Did I miss anything? What are your rules? Let me know
Today is #SingleParentsDay and I’m delighted to announce that an article I shared my story with Gingerbread, a single parents charity based in London, which was published today.
The thing is, when I first became a single Dad, I couldn’t bear the idea that I’d failed as a parent. It was difficult to accept and I thought life could never be good again.
The fact is, it can.
Here’s a little snippet from the article:
As a single parent, you don’t have the chance to give up. Your life isn’t about you anymore, it’s about your child and that means being strong. Stronger than you have probably ever had to be before@The_Breaking_Dad | Gingerbread
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